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Emotional Healing
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HERE IS THE PROBLEM:
The vast majority of individuals are either never taught about emotions or they are taught that certain emotions are "bad" and should be avoided at all cost. Most people get "stuck" in an emotional state and cannot get out of that state for one very simple reason - they don't know what the opposite of that emotional state is.
You probably know that the opposite of sad is happy and that the opposite of love is hate, but do you know what the opposite of jealousy is? How about the opposite of anger? Revenge? Grief? Frustration?
This is not really an emotional problem. At its core, this is a problem of language. It is a lack of knowledge about the simple meaning of words. Of course, the true problems go deeper than this, but these problems cannot be addressed on those deeper levels if we do not know the words that are necessary to communicate the feelings that they name. This simple lack of information, knowledge and direction makes it difficult for people to help themselves emotionally.
Just like any form of travel, emotional journeys require a map and/or a set of directions. Knowing where you want to go (emotionally) is the first step of leaving the (emotional) state in which you currently reside, in order to arrive at the (emotional) destination that you desire.
"Pay no attention to the disease. Focus on the positive attributes you desire." - Dr. Edward Bach (Bach Flowers)
You ARE capable of helping yourself. The medical/psychiatry establishment wants you to believe otherwise.
The starting point is for you to receive good information about emotions, so that YOU understand your own feelings.
If it is difficult (or impossible) for you to simply find a word in your mind that clearly identifies and defines how you WANT TO FEEL, it will be very difficult for you to consciously go there. If you are stuck in a "negative" emotion, and would like to experience the opposite, positive balancing emotion, then you need to know that emotion's name.
This appears to be self evident. How else can you possibly enjoy emotional health? You must know where to go.
TAKE OUR CHALLENGE:
Our challenge is this: Look at the list of emotions listed below. Can you name the emotion that is needed to balance each of the emotions? We bet you can't! We bet your therapist can't either!
"I do not know" is a valid answer. It is very important that you stop after 5 minutes, and submit your entry. The point is that it is important to realize that emotions act upon your being very rapidly. In "real life" you won't have very much time to think and ponder your emotional response. Emotions are immediate. If you experience an emotion in "real life", you will need to be able to observe, identify and adjust it within seconds. You will have time to think and ponder this test. You can always re-submit the test. Be brave - take our quiz. This is about gaining self knowledge. Be honest with yourself - submit it within 5 minutes of beginning the quiz! If you cheat, you will only be cheating yourself.
COMPLETE THE FORM BELOW, THEN CLICK ON "SUBMIT" WITHIN 5 MINUTES OF STARTING THE QUIZ
Call 310-619-3055 to discuss the results of this test.
Dynamic Equilibrium
Many so-called health practitioners talk about and promote the concept of "homeostasis". Personally, I wish that they would all stop using this word. JUST STOP IT! This concept is NOT health-promoting. The word itself means "stagnant sameness". If your practitioner talks to you about "homeostasis", you should probably find another practitioner.
Life is not meant to be stagnant. Life, and therefore health, are ever changing. Think of a skilled surfer, skier, or gymnast. They need to be able to constantly adjust to different circumstances in order to maintain balance. If any of them maintained a stagnant, same position, they would quickly fall off their surfboard, skis or balance beam.
If you believe that health is based upon balance, you should avoid those who preach "homeostasis" and strive to achieve dynamic equilibrium with your environment. Dynamic equilibrium is an ever-changing state in which you constantly make adjustments in response to whatever life brings.
This means that you should NOT look at emotions as "good" or "bad". Emotions simply are. The question is this: Are you able to express the appropriate emotion at the appropriate moment in order to maintain balance, and therefore, health in your life? Sometimes anger is an appropriate emotion. If anger is appropriate and you hold it inside, you are injuring your health on many levels.
Are you able to move along the emotional spectrum between emotional polarities such as happiness and sadness on an as-needed basis?
THAT IS DYNAMIC EQUILIBRIUM. THAT IS HEALTH.
The starting point in the path towards dynamic equilibrium and emotional health is to realize and accept that emotions are NOT good or bad. Your own preconceived notions of "right" and "wrong" are the root cause of many of the (physical or emotional) problems that you have. Emotions are not "good" and they are not "bad". They are simply energy in motion (e-motion). Stop judging emotions as "good" or "bad" and allow yourself to experience APPROPRIATE emotional responses. Let your own emotional energy flow through you and observe its movement. Let it flow through you and then let it flow out of you.
JUDGEMENTAL/MORALISTIC OPINIONS
One of the biggest problems with emotional health is the opinions held by most people that certain emotions or feelings are "bad" and that one should not allow oneself to express these "bad" emotions. This is despite the obvious fact that you know that you feel them and you know that there isn't very much you can do about it. Emotional feelings are a fact of human nature. They are an integral part of our very existence.
We are taught to repress these emotions. The energy that is necessary to bottle up these emotions is draining. It takes far more energy to "suppress" an emotion than it does to simply experience it and let it flow through and out of your being. Many people have been trained, or have chosen to constantly suppress and/or repress their emotional feelings. This habit leads to a deeply "pressed" state of being that many people refer to as "depression". It is no surprise that people who deeply repress their emotional energy are exhausted.
The physical armoring that our body constructs to keep these emotions repressed gradually alters the natural balance and function of our physical, mental and emotional beings. Whenever we are told "You shouldn't feel that way" or whenever we tell ourselves that "I won't ever let myself feel this way again", we are blocking off access to emotional variety that limits our ability to respond appropriately to future events.
Are you prejudiced against certain emotional responses? Take a look at the emotions that are listed on this page and ask yourself these questions:
One of the biggest problems with emotional health is the opinions held by most people that certain emotions or feelings are "bad" and that one should not allow oneself to express these "bad" emotions. This is despite the obvious fact that you know that you feel them and you know that there isn't very much you can do about it. Emotional feelings are a fact of human nature. They are an integral part of our very existence.
We are taught to repress these emotions. The energy that is necessary to bottle up these emotions is draining. It takes far more energy to "suppress" an emotion than it does to simply experience it and let it flow through and out of your being. Many people have been trained, or have chosen to constantly suppress and/or repress their emotional feelings. This habit leads to a deeply "pressed" state of being that many people refer to as "depression". It is no surprise that people who deeply repress their emotional energy are exhausted.
The physical armoring that our body constructs to keep these emotions repressed gradually alters the natural balance and function of our physical, mental and emotional beings. Whenever we are told "You shouldn't feel that way" or whenever we tell ourselves that "I won't ever let myself feel this way again", we are blocking off access to emotional variety that limits our ability to respond appropriately to future events.
Are you prejudiced against certain emotional responses? Take a look at the emotions that are listed on this page and ask yourself these questions:
- How many of the emotions listed do you believe are "bad"?
- Have you denied yourself access to a wide range of emotional response?
- How many of the emotions are you UNABLE or UNWILLING to truly experience APPROPRIATELY?
- Do you look down on others when they express these emotions?
BLOCKED AND/OR INAPPROPRIATE EMOTIONAL RESPONSES
Appropriate emotional responses are often blocked for a number of reasons...
Fear
Religious Beliefs/Teachings
Societal (Peer) Pressure
Habit
Law
When an individual, for whatever reason, is prevented from expressing an appropriate emotion, the energy in that emotion still must be dealt with. That energy will either be...
- Repressed and held within the emotional, physical and mental bodies (blockage/armoring)
- Released as an inappropriate emotional response
If you have lived life to any degree, you have had experiences that were either painful or pleasureable. Your own past experiences of "pleasure" and "pain" are some of the biggest factors in your determination of what is "good" and what is "bad". Your own judgements about your own life experiences are also the root cause of any (physical or emotional) problem that you currently have.
*****A QUESTION FOR "PRACTITIONERS"
If you are a psychiatrist, psychologist, "life coach", new age guru, or someone's mom, dad, sister, brother, friend or trusted advisor, I would like to have a word with you.
I would like to ask you the following question:
Do you realize that you are harming other people whenever you advise someone else that they "shouldn't feel" the emotions that are listed above?
It is my humble opinion that no one should tell others how to feel. It is also my opinion that no one should be allowed to charge another person a fee for their advice if they cannot pass the quiz that is listed above with a 100% accurate score. This is just my opinion.
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People NEED to "feel" the emotions that have been triggered by the emotional systems in their body. They need to "feel" them completely and fully. After they experience the rush of adrenalin that comes with anger, or jealousy, or revenge, or fear, THEN they need to identify what they are feeling and judge whether or not they choose to allow that feeling to continue. It may be an appropriate response to the situation at hand.
After they identify the feeling that they are feeling, then...
PEOPLE NEED TO KNOW EXACTLY WHAT THE OPPOSITE EMOTION IS.
Only then can an individual person CHOOSE to feel the emotion that will truly balance their emotions and bring them back to balance. This is dynamic equilibrium.
Far too many people in psychiatry preach that emotions are "bad" and "wrong" and must be medicated into oblivion. You don't want to feel that emotion? OK... Here's your drug.
This just serves to keep people ignorant and even more confused.
Far too many people in "new age" circles tell everyone to "fill their being with light and love". They advise people that feeling the negative emotions listed above is dangerous and unhealthy. This is true, but it is woefully inadequate advice. Unfortunately, for most people, this type of advice often causes them to attempt to suppress and repress their true feelings, because the existence of those emotions has come to mean that the are not yet "enlightened".
Surgically altering people, poisoning their system with psychotropic drugs, and providing them with woefully inadequate "advice" is far from optimal. Instead, what if we taught children, teenagers and adults to feel, observe, understand and CHOOSE their emotions???????
UNAVOIDABLE EMOTIONAL RESPONSES
The experience of life triggers emotional responses. Unless you have had your sensory nervous system and your reptilian brain surgically removed, medically anesthetized or "spiritually enlightened", there is a very good probability that your physical body is going to evaluate your situation and release chemical compounds and electrical signals that result in feelings that are called "negative" emotions.
This is unavoidable, and I, for one, would not wish to avoid the feeling nature of my life. This is what makes us human. This is what makes life worth living. The yin and yang of the emotional roller coaster requires the ups and downs, the ins and outs, the positive and the negative. Life after lobotomy is not life. Emotional life that is medicated is pale in comparison to real life. Life in the clouds of spiritual enlightenment prevents us from truly connecting with people who are emotionally heavy and overburdened.
If you are like most people, at this point you probably believe that some emotions should not be permitted. If you are like most people, you probably believe that you know the difference between "right" and "wrong". If you currently feel this way, then you need to know that there are remedies and treatments that can help you release the blockages that are stuck in your mental, emotional and physical bodies which prevent you from fully experiencing life in a vibrant and healthy manner.
Each of the emotions that are listed in the left column below
has a polar opposite that is listed in the right column.
Can you pair them together?
has a polar opposite that is listed in the right column.
Can you pair them together?
If you are willing to learn,
I am willing to guide you through the information that is available on this website.
All you have to do is call and ask.
Feel free to call with any questions that you may have.
James Roguski 310-619-3055
You "are" because you are aware.
You are "human", BECAUSE you feel your emotions.
Don't judge them.
Don't deny them.
Don't mask them.
Don't suppress them.
Accept them as they are.
Feel them.
Express them.
Observe them.
Understand them.
Change them if you choose.
Give others the freedom to do the same.
Don't judge them.
Don't deny them.
Don't mask them.
Don't suppress them.
Accept them as they are.
Feel them.
Express them.
Observe them.
Understand them.
Change them if you choose.
Give others the freedom to do the same.
There is a reason that "the rapist" is spelled therapist.
If you charge a fee for your advice, look inside your self.
How well can you "read" people?
Can you name the emotions expressed by the emoticons below?
If you cannot, then you should not charge for any of the advice you provide.
Oh, one more thing.
Maybe those emotions that you are experiencing
aren't really yours!
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